The Top 5 ways to deal with Anxiety and Motherhood
Anxiety is Real
If your reading this, you are probably all too familiar with anxiety and motherhood. Mom anxiety is real and it’s hardly ever talked about. As a Mom who dealt with anxiety, I know first hand how bad it can affect your ability to be a great mother and wife.
But, it is important to note that anxiety not only affects us as mothers it also affects our children. Seeing first hand, the state of your anxiety can be very unsettling to them. Children look to their parents on how to deal with difficult situations and if a mom is consistently anxious and stressed in certain situations it can lead to children adopting those same feelings.
So what do you do to help ensure that you don’t pass your anxiety onto your kids? First and foremost, the most important thing is to manage your own stress by executing strategies to help ensure that you do not pass your anxiety on to your kids.
I am going to give you my top 5 ways to deal with anxiety and motherhood that I learned from my therapist. By executing these strategies, you will learn to manage your stress and anxiety and be on your way to becoming a better you.
Top 5 Ways to Deal with Anxiety
1.) ASK FOR HELP
The first and most important tip, ASK FOR HELP! Although, as a mom, you feel that you have to get everything done, it doesn’t mean you have to do it all on your own. So solicit help from everyone and that means even the kids. Give your kids chores based on their age. It may not get done the right way the first time but that’s okay. Not only is this good practice for your patience but good practice for the kids as well. Eventually, they will be pros and you will no longer have to worry if it’s getting done right.
2.) PRACTICE SELF-CARE
Nothing is more important than self-care. Take some time for yourself, even if it’s only 5 minutes. You can’t handle stresses that come your way if you are mentally and physically exhausted. Feel your best by reminding yourself that you too are important. Check out my post on Self-care For the Tired and Weary Momma for tips and ideas on how to achieve this.
Recognizing that not everything is going to go perfect is a hard thing to do sometimes but it can be done. Accepting that the house is going to look like a tornado hit it sometimes, will lower your anxiety levels when you see a mess. Or knowing that the strict schedule that you were following is going to change will help you manage your stress when your whole day has been flipped upside down. But, most importantly acknowledging that your not perfect and your not superwoman will help you cope with days where your just too tired to do everything. It’s okay because guess what it will be there again tomorrow.
If there is anyone who understands what you’re going through, it’s going to be someone who is experiencing the same things you’re going through. The great thing about social media nowadays is you can find just about any type of group you want to. Find an online community of moms where you can ask questions and advice and not be judged. Find a support group through your church where you can practice your faith and healing together. Or see a therapist that can listen and offer advice at your most vulnerable moments.
5.) TAKE A HIATUS FROM SOCIAL MEDIA
Social media is one of those things that if you aren’t careful, can leave you caught up in an unrealistic world. Let’s be honest, social media shows somewhat of an exaggerated lifestyle of others. We only see the really good because no one is going to post the really bad, I know I’m not. So, we get consumed in that “perfect” world and when things are not going okay for ourselves, we start comparing our lives to others and wishing things were different. So take a hiatus from social media because I can guarantee that social media will be there tomorrow.
12 comments on “The Top 5 ways to deal with Anxiety and Motherhood”
It wasn’t until I was pregnant that I found out that anxiety was real. It’s some thing I had never experienced before, and it is hard to describe to someone that hasn’t experienced it.
Catching up with my mum friends (in real life or on social media) has been really helpful. Even though our kids are all different, most of what we go through is the same.
This is so true! I think this is a topic thag isn’t always recognized and as mothers we are somewhat ‘expected ‘ to deal with a lot. I’m glad you wrote about this!
such great tips and so simple too.. but yes, asking for help seems to be tough for so many people. While acceptance took me a while, I am there now..
I find another way that social media contributes to anxiety in parenting is showing all of the possible ways my kids can get sick or injured. It can be overwhelming! Thanks for these strategies to reduce anxiety in motherhood.
I didn’t realize I had postpartum anxiety the first time around. I finally read an article about it before having my second baby, so it was on my radar as being something I had probably experienced the first go round. When it hit the second time, it hit full force on day 4 postpartum when I couldn’t calm my body down enough to fall asleep. I knew exactly what it was. It’s a beast. Thank you for sharing your tips on this.
I love all of your tips! I suffer from postpartum depression, even after 2 years, I am still battling it every day. I think the hardest one for me is social media, since its my job, but I do turn it of on the weekends and that helps!
your tips are awesome! asking for help is important for everyone, not just ppd sufferers and we all need to know its ok to ask when you need it
Thank you for sharing this. I have certainly struggled with anxiety over the years. I think being as real about it as possible, talk to others and realizing how common it is, helps to take the stigma away. One thing that has been tremendous for me is writing. It’s like ‘telling a friend’ without having to worry what someone will say back to you.
I think we are bombarded with so many things, between motherhood and social media. It is just a lot of things going on at once, and it makes sense to take a social media break. It is good to connect with others so you don’t feel so isolated as a new mom.
Yes, it’s real and it’s serious. My best friend is in that situation right now and it does not look pretty. Thank you for sharing these tips. I shared your post with her too.
I’m glad you enjoyed my post. Thank you for sharing my post with your friend. I hope it helps her.
Asking for help is probably the hardest part for me. But I’m trying to get better at it.